Brothaman,
Just a quickie (my favorite), and I want your unfiltered answer.
When she's upset - or full on losing her shit - and you suspect (or know) it isn't about the thing she says it's about…
What do you do?
Most men default to one of two things, myself included:
Mr. Fix It.
You try to fix it logically, which makes sense for us guys, but pretty much never works with our women, because they’re ‘emotional’ (aka kinda crazy).
(There’s a wild card that we’ve all done to some degree at some point, where you popped off at her and really regretted it, but I’m gonna assume we’re not wife-beaters here)
Ghost Mode
You go radio silence and wait it out, which means being quiet while your insides RAGE - or you literally leave.
It’s the same basic move underneath. Both of them are trying to make the discomfort stop, and they don’t come to a real resolution.
I did both for years - and still do more often than I like to admit.
(I typically go to Mr. Fix It, but I’m no stranger to Ghost Mode either)
SO, are you a fixer or waiter?
Hit reply, and tell me which one you typically default to. I’m genuinely curious.
There's a third option that almost nobody takes, because it’s counterintuitive. More on that later…
To Option #3 - aka the backdoor ;)
Jordan