Call it prostitution…
Call it patriarchy…
Call it KINKY…
I call it primal partnership meets modern marriage - and it WORKS.
Here’s my story (and your inspiration)👇🏻
Becoming parents changes things, to say the least, and reclaiming romance is one of the biggest challenges for most couples.
That was my wife and I, BIG time.
We are educators in the intimacy space, so we have some go-to tricks of the trade, but they just weren’t getting us over the hump, if you know what I mean…
We wanted to find a sacred smashing dynamic that felt clear, clean and HOT.
A mentor shared a simple and spicy arrangement he and his wife s-explicitly agreed upon years ago that changed everything for them:
He makes money.
She gives $EX.
I felt hesitant, but curious.
I imagine you feel similar.
On the one hand, this seemed superficial & offensive to my conditioning.
Isn’t this a glaring and dangerous example of perpetuating the patriarchy?
I quickly recognized that programming is NOT mine and leaned into the intrigue on the other side of the judgements.
Why does this seem so wrong but feel SO right?
Because it’s a tale as old as time:
Man = protector & provider
Woman = nurturer & muse
Biology…physiology…psychology…evolution…it all supports this foundation of partnership.
So, my wife & I talked about it, and we quickly realized - this is IT.
No one thing is everything, but sometimes you find a HIGH leverage phenomenon with outsized returns, and we FOUND it:
Daddy pays.
Mama plays.
If you feel triggered by this, I get it. It’s a bit of a mind-fuck.
AND, if there’s even 1% of curiosity & openness, I encourage you to follow that.
For us, it’s created an ever-present foreplay that’s invigorating. It’s a positive reinforcement loop & infinite game where we both win.
There’s no shame or withholding if I don’t land a deal or have a ‘losing’ streak financially. In fact, she doubles down on her playful seduction to inspire & encourage me in those moments.
However this lands for you, I dare you to share this post w/ your partner & see what energy is unlocked.
On our end, I’m happy to report ravenous results, and we’ve only just begun.
With reverence and a half-chub,
J-Bow
